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You may not agree with a woman, but to criticize her appearance — as opposed to her ideas or actions — isn’t doing anyone any favors, least of all you. Insulting a woman’s looks when they have nothing to do with the issue at hand implies a lack of comprehension on your part, an inability to engage in high-level thinking. You may think she’s ugly, but everyone else thinks you’re an idiot.
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Hey there! For the anon with a 34D and narrow hips, I have some advice, since I have a similar body type. I often use high-waisted skirts or trousers that make my waist look smaller and my hips and butt bigger (the skirts do wonders for the hips), or dresses tight on the top and loose on the skirt. Those will give you an hourglass shape. Avoid turtlenecks or tops with high collars, and tend more to v-shape collars and wide collars. Above all, however, learn to love your body.
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choochoobear:

tastefullyoffensive:

If Disney Princesses Were Actually Sloths by Jen Lewis

Previously: Nicolas Cage as Disney Princesses

Give unto me.

orangegirl22:

twoheartsneverlie:

amariafera:

juliebooli:

dotanon:

kripke-is-my-king:

vexie-chan:

midnitedancer:

sdelabelle:

cute-sexual:

thelittlecoyoteinitiative:

This needs to be rebloggable …

number 9 tho

number fucking 9. there was a dude that would play his guitar outside of my window at 1 am all the time

Some bits that I’ve picked up:
There’s a general rule of college that if you were sitting in that seat for over two weeks, that is your seat. Not many if any professors have seating arrangements but switching seats will fuck everyone up.
Get there early and stay late. As soon as you get home you will not want to do shit. Stay on campus and do some homework while you’re in the environment.
SIT UP FRONT. The best way to start understanding something is to listen to someone talk about it and you can’t do that from the back of the class trying to listen over everyone whispering to each other. LISTENING WILL MAKE HOMEWORK SO MUCH EASIER. 
Be childish, but be respectful. Have a massive snowball fight across campus, but don’t aim for anyone not taking part. 
SHUT THE FUCK UP IN THE LIBRARY. Some people work there, some people sleep there. It is a quiet space. 
Don’t be afraid to talk to professors. They are not there to flunk you. They would rather you pass than not.
IF YOU NEED TUTORING GET TUTORING DON’T WAIT UNTIL YOU’VE DUG YOURSELF INTO YOUR GRAVE.
Get involved. It will help you make friends, give you new skills to learn, and even help you get a leg up in the work place if you know the right people.

I will add to this as a GTA:
   Take time for yourself—buy a planner, figure out when your best study hours are, figure out WHERE you study best, and figure out how much time you need to complete an assignment—AND THEN make sure to pencil in an hour for video games, some time to watch a TV show, or time to just lay on your floor and blow bubbles. Whatever you like. Don’t forget about YOU.
  SLEEP. EAT. DRINK WATER. Don’t die. Caffeine =/= sleep. I cannot emphasize that this much. 
    AND MOST IMPORTANTLY:
  COMMUNICATE WITH YOUR INSTRUCTORS! If you’re sick, shoot an e-mail and say “Hey, I’m sick today. Can I set up a time to talk to you about what I missed?” If you’ve got a good opportunity (scholarships, to go to another country, to check out a cool lecture, etc.) let your prof know ahead of time. If you just need time to work on projects, all it takes is an e-mail. We understand. I gave a student a free skip day because he e-mailed me and said “Hey, look, I have two massive tests and a project due and I need the time to study.” And THAT IS OKAY.
   However, sometimes you just need a personal day, and you know what, when you wake up and getting out of bed seems like the worst idea ever….just turn off your alarm and get that sleep.

Some additionally tid-bits that might help you 
Before signing up for classes, look on “ratemyprofessor.com" and see if the teachers at your campus are included. There may be two or more teachers for the same course, and you want to try and pick the good/easy one. Who your professor is can have a great affect on what grade you make, even for the "same" class. 
Look for a facebook group for your "graduating class" set up, which is a good way to make friends and find people with similar interests (particularly for introverts). 
Look for a facebook group for each of your courses. If there isn’t one, MAKE ONE and send it out via the course email or word of mouth. These groups are helpful for if you missed class and need the notes, and especially for review time before exams. 
If no one else does it, make a google doc of the exam reviews and post it on the class facebook page. That way everyone contributes to the review. 200 brains are most definitely better than 1. 
During lectures, unless Internet is required, TURN IT OFF. If it’s on, you WILL end up on tumblr or some other site, and you will miss important shit. 
For the love of God, pay attention to your syllabus. Sometimes assignments are listed there, and that’s the only place it’ll be mentioned. Also, if it says to do a reading by a specific date, DO THE READING BY THAT DATE. Otherwise you will get behind, and you will have 200+ pages of textbooks to read in one night before the test, and you will cry.
Yes you actually need to do the readings. Yes it is a lot. Yes it will suck. Do it anyways. 
If you are used to getting all A’s, do not cry when you get a B. Take it from someone who killed herself for two years to maintain a 4.0, it feels like the end of the world when your GPA drops, but it’s not. You’ll be okay. Just breathe and do your best. Your best is good enough.

Addons—
Try to make sure you leave an open hour around midday so that you have time to get food in you. A lot of people forget to do this. If you have to have back to back classes, check your syllabus or with your teacher—some midday classes allow you to bring in a drink and a snack. Some will even allow you a full meal.
If you can get an online/pdf copy of the book without busting the bank, DO IT. Sometimes there are even annotated versions online. This can make notetaking a shitton easier, because you can highlight printed-out versions of the book and they won’t dock you on the money back. Sometimes professors move through their lecture too fast for you to write stuff down. Shrugging off that old ‘don’t ruin your books’ rule you had in high school may be your only hope.
UNLESS YOU NEED THEM OR REALLY WANT TO KEEP THEM TRY TO SELL BACK YOUR BOOKS—maybe even offer them online to incoming students. You won’t get nearly the worth of them but someone after you will thank you a million times over for providing a used copy. If you take good notes, you can sometimes buy/sell those as well. A lot of professors teach literally the same class every time.
IF YOUR PROFESSOR PUTS NOTES ONLINE GET THEM. GET THEM NOW. TRUST ME. YOU WANT THOSE NOTES. Bring them in with you if it’s possible to get them before class.
Keep change on hand. Always.
The Best Way To Make Friends:
Bring a printer with you to college and offer to print people’s stuff for half of what the school does or for free if you can afford it.
Carry around small candies with you and offer them to people while waiting outside of class. If you are the ‘candy person’ this gives you an in for starting conversations.
Buy a jumbo pack of chalk and find an open sidewalk on a free day. Write the words ‘Come draw with me?’ and begin doodling.
Have a pack of cards.
Last But Not Least: if you go onto campus and you can’t find what you’re looking for, and you are afraid to go up to someone and ask, find an open, well-populated area, hold your schedule/map in hand, and walk in circles for a few minutes, looking up and around in obvious confusion. Other students know this body language well. Someone will stop and point you in the right direction. (if you are worried that the person’s directions are a joke or faulty, wait for them to leave and take up the stance again; if the directions match-up the second time, they’re legit; do not allow a person to ‘show you the way’ unless EVERY STEP is along an obvious walkway, just in case)
For those of you who fear assault, most campuses aren’t much for small blades or mace. Carry a pocket air horn or a hand bag of those little pop-rock fireworks unless you can get a concealed weapons permit.

Adding my own tidbit:
Make friends with transfer kids. Chances are, they won’t be able to live in the dorms and it’ll be ten times harder for them to meet people since they have to drive to and from campus. It’s also fun hearing about their experiences before the college you both go to. 
Make friends with an older student. I’m talking about students who have families and full-time jobs. You can learn a lot from them, and they honestly have the best stories. They’re often the smartest and the most dedicated, so they make great study buddies. 

As a recent high school graduate I cannot thank you enough for posting this you precious angels.

Adding on my own little bit:
It really is true that sometimes, the kids you were friends with in high school were only your friends because you saw each other five times a week. ITS OKAY to make new friends and to move on from your high school crew. If your friendship was genuine, it will survive the distance and new experiences that uni brings, I promise. I have friends I’ve known since we were 5 (we’re now all approaching our mid 20s [god that’s terrifying].) and we managed to still be friends through moving to different states, different countries in some cases, and having completely separate college experiences. My best friends are a mix of people I met in college, after college, and way, way before college. Focus on figuring out who you are, and bring along the friendships that help you be who you want to be. Don’t be afraid to let go of friendships that are toxic to your physical, mental, and emotional well being, or to let go of friendships that turned out to be a matter of convenience. People change. You certainly will. Embrace the change. College can be some of the best or some of the worst years of your young adult life. Make the most of them with the people that make you the best you you can possibly be.

If you are in a big lecture class and you don’t want to see a professor, go see your TA. TAs are there to help you. They’re students too and they are going to sympathize. (Probably even when you start crying. They probably want to cry all the time.) If your TA isn’t helpful, see if a friend in the class has a TA they like and go to their office hours. 
Go to office hours in general. If you’re not getting something, just go. A lot of professors are a million times more sympathetic to kids they know are trying. If you go to office hours, you’ll probably find out the answer to your question and might even earn yourself the benefit of the doubt. (Seriously, the grading discussions in one of my courses included an assessment of how hard the students were working when they were on the boarder line between two grades.)
I’m going to disagree with one of the people above me and say don’t do all the reading. You can’t do all the reading and it’s not a great use of your time. One of the most useful skills you can develop is the ability to tell what classes actually need you to do the reading and which don’t. Literature class? Do the damn reading. But I had science classes where the reading added nothing unless I needed more help on a concept and an Anthro class where the prof wrote the book and the lectures and readings were redundant. Figuring this out will help a lot.
Take classes that will make your world bigger, even if they are not your major. Take queer studies, women’s studies, Native American Studies, cultural anthropology. Take them with an open mind, because they might just change your world
Don’t live with your best friends. Live with people who have compatible lifestyles.
Prop your door open in the dorm room when you can. Sometimes you will be too tired or you’ll be working, but if not, prop the door open. I made a lot of friends by hanging out with the people who walked by.
If you have to change your major, that is okay. Don’t trap yourself in something just because it’s what you thought you wanted to do when you started. You gave it a try, and the point of giving it a try is to see if it’s what you really want. If you don’t like it, or it turns out not to be something you’re good at, you are not a failure. This happens to so many students. If you have to change your major, it just means you have more thinking to do. Try to admit this to yourself as soon as you can. 
Have fun. These four years will be gone before you know it, and if they go well, you will miss them like crazy when they are gone. But try not to get caught up in worrying about whether other people are having more fun than you. Sometimes fun means camping out in the dead of winter for basketball tickets, sometimes it means grocery shopping and movies with your best friends, sometimes it means a great party, sometimes it means staying up until 4am playing video games and sleeping through your alarm. It’s all okay.
Sometimes you might need to call your mom/dad/best friend back home/grandparent and cry. That’s okay, too.

orangegirl22:

twoheartsneverlie:

amariafera:

juliebooli:

dotanon:

kripke-is-my-king:

vexie-chan:

midnitedancer:

sdelabelle:

cute-sexual:

thelittlecoyoteinitiative:

This needs to be rebloggable …

number 9 tho

number fucking 9. there was a dude that would play his guitar outside of my window at 1 am all the time

Some bits that I’ve picked up:

There’s a general rule of college that if you were sitting in that seat for over two weeks, that is your seat. Not many if any professors have seating arrangements but switching seats will fuck everyone up.

Get there early and stay late. As soon as you get home you will not want to do shit. Stay on campus and do some homework while you’re in the environment.

SIT UP FRONT. The best way to start understanding something is to listen to someone talk about it and you can’t do that from the back of the class trying to listen over everyone whispering to each other. LISTENING WILL MAKE HOMEWORK SO MUCH EASIER. 

Be childish, but be respectful. Have a massive snowball fight across campus, but don’t aim for anyone not taking part. 

SHUT THE FUCK UP IN THE LIBRARY. Some people work there, some people sleep there. It is a quiet space. 

Don’t be afraid to talk to professors. They are not there to flunk you. They would rather you pass than not.

IF YOU NEED TUTORING GET TUTORING DON’T WAIT UNTIL YOU’VE DUG YOURSELF INTO YOUR GRAVE.

Get involved. It will help you make friends, give you new skills to learn, and even help you get a leg up in the work place if you know the right people.

I will add to this as a GTA:

   Take time for yourself—buy a planner, figure out when your best study hours are, figure out WHERE you study best, and figure out how much time you need to complete an assignment—AND THEN make sure to pencil in an hour for video games, some time to watch a TV show, or time to just lay on your floor and blow bubbles. Whatever you like. Don’t forget about YOU.

  SLEEP. EAT. DRINK WATER. Don’t die. Caffeine =/= sleep. I cannot emphasize that this much. 

    AND MOST IMPORTANTLY:

  COMMUNICATE WITH YOUR INSTRUCTORS! If you’re sick, shoot an e-mail and say “Hey, I’m sick today. Can I set up a time to talk to you about what I missed?” If you’ve got a good opportunity (scholarships, to go to another country, to check out a cool lecture, etc.) let your prof know ahead of time. If you just need time to work on projects, all it takes is an e-mail. We understand. I gave a student a free skip day because he e-mailed me and said “Hey, look, I have two massive tests and a project due and I need the time to study.” And THAT IS OKAY.

   However, sometimes you just need a personal day, and you know what, when you wake up and getting out of bed seems like the worst idea ever….just turn off your alarm and get that sleep.

Some additionally tid-bits that might help you 

  • Before signing up for classes, look on “ratemyprofessor.com" and see if the teachers at your campus are included. There may be two or more teachers for the same course, and you want to try and pick the good/easy one. Who your professor is can have a great affect on what grade you make, even for the "same" class. 
  • Look for a facebook group for your "graduating class" set up, which is a good way to make friends and find people with similar interests (particularly for introverts). 
  • Look for a facebook group for each of your courses. If there isn’t one, MAKE ONE and send it out via the course email or word of mouth. These groups are helpful for if you missed class and need the notes, and especially for review time before exams. 
  • If no one else does it, make a google doc of the exam reviews and post it on the class facebook page. That way everyone contributes to the review. 200 brains are most definitely better than 1. 
  • During lectures, unless Internet is required, TURN IT OFF. If it’s on, you WILL end up on tumblr or some other site, and you will miss important shit. 
  • For the love of God, pay attention to your syllabus. Sometimes assignments are listed there, and that’s the only place it’ll be mentioned. Also, if it says to do a reading by a specific date, DO THE READING BY THAT DATE. Otherwise you will get behind, and you will have 200+ pages of textbooks to read in one night before the test, and you will cry.
  • Yes you actually need to do the readings. Yes it is a lot. Yes it will suck. Do it anyways. 
  • If you are used to getting all A’s, do not cry when you get a B. Take it from someone who killed herself for two years to maintain a 4.0, it feels like the end of the world when your GPA drops, but it’s not. You’ll be okay. Just breathe and do your best. Your best is good enough.

Addons—

Try to make sure you leave an open hour around midday so that you have time to get food in you. A lot of people forget to do this. If you have to have back to back classes, check your syllabus or with your teacher—some midday classes allow you to bring in a drink and a snack. Some will even allow you a full meal.

If you can get an online/pdf copy of the book without busting the bank, DO IT. Sometimes there are even annotated versions online. This can make notetaking a shitton easier, because you can highlight printed-out versions of the book and they won’t dock you on the money back. Sometimes professors move through their lecture too fast for you to write stuff down. Shrugging off that old ‘don’t ruin your books’ rule you had in high school may be your only hope.

UNLESS YOU NEED THEM OR REALLY WANT TO KEEP THEM TRY TO SELL BACK YOUR BOOKS—maybe even offer them online to incoming students. You won’t get nearly the worth of them but someone after you will thank you a million times over for providing a used copy. If you take good notes, you can sometimes buy/sell those as well. A lot of professors teach literally the same class every time.

IF YOUR PROFESSOR PUTS NOTES ONLINE GET THEM. GET THEM NOW. TRUST ME. YOU WANT THOSE NOTES. Bring them in with you if it’s possible to get them before class.

Keep change on hand. Always.

The Best Way To Make Friends:

Bring a printer with you to college and offer to print people’s stuff for half of what the school does or for free if you can afford it.

Carry around small candies with you and offer them to people while waiting outside of class. If you are the ‘candy person’ this gives you an in for starting conversations.

Buy a jumbo pack of chalk and find an open sidewalk on a free day. Write the words ‘Come draw with me?’ and begin doodling.

Have a pack of cards.

Last But Not Least: if you go onto campus and you can’t find what you’re looking for, and you are afraid to go up to someone and ask, find an open, well-populated area, hold your schedule/map in hand, and walk in circles for a few minutes, looking up and around in obvious confusion. Other students know this body language well. Someone will stop and point you in the right direction. (if you are worried that the person’s directions are a joke or faulty, wait for them to leave and take up the stance again; if the directions match-up the second time, they’re legit; do not allow a person to ‘show you the way’ unless EVERY STEP is along an obvious walkway, just in case)

For those of you who fear assault, most campuses aren’t much for small blades or mace. Carry a pocket air horn or a hand bag of those little pop-rock fireworks unless you can get a concealed weapons permit.

Adding my own tidbit:

Make friends with transfer kids. Chances are, they won’t be able to live in the dorms and it’ll be ten times harder for them to meet people since they have to drive to and from campus. It’s also fun hearing about their experiences before the college you both go to. 

Make friends with an older student. I’m talking about students who have families and full-time jobs. You can learn a lot from them, and they honestly have the best stories. They’re often the smartest and the most dedicated, so they make great study buddies. 

As a recent high school graduate I cannot thank you enough for posting this you precious angels.

Adding on my own little bit:

It really is true that sometimes, the kids you were friends with in high school were only your friends because you saw each other five times a week. ITS OKAY to make new friends and to move on from your high school crew. If your friendship was genuine, it will survive the distance and new experiences that uni brings, I promise. I have friends I’ve known since we were 5 (we’re now all approaching our mid 20s [god that’s terrifying].) and we managed to still be friends through moving to different states, different countries in some cases, and having completely separate college experiences. My best friends are a mix of people I met in college, after college, and way, way before college. Focus on figuring out who you are, and bring along the friendships that help you be who you want to be. Don’t be afraid to let go of friendships that are toxic to your physical, mental, and emotional well being, or to let go of friendships that turned out to be a matter of convenience. People change. You certainly will. Embrace the change. College can be some of the best or some of the worst years of your young adult life. Make the most of them with the people that make you the best you you can possibly be.

If you are in a big lecture class and you don’t want to see a professor, go see your TA. TAs are there to help you. They’re students too and they are going to sympathize. (Probably even when you start crying. They probably want to cry all the time.) If your TA isn’t helpful, see if a friend in the class has a TA they like and go to their office hours. 

Go to office hours in general. If you’re not getting something, just go. A lot of professors are a million times more sympathetic to kids they know are trying. If you go to office hours, you’ll probably find out the answer to your question and might even earn yourself the benefit of the doubt. (Seriously, the grading discussions in one of my courses included an assessment of how hard the students were working when they were on the boarder line between two grades.)

I’m going to disagree with one of the people above me and say don’t do all the reading. You can’t do all the reading and it’s not a great use of your time. One of the most useful skills you can develop is the ability to tell what classes actually need you to do the reading and which don’t. Literature class? Do the damn reading. But I had science classes where the reading added nothing unless I needed more help on a concept and an Anthro class where the prof wrote the book and the lectures and readings were redundant. Figuring this out will help a lot.

Take classes that will make your world bigger, even if they are not your major. Take queer studies, women’s studies, Native American Studies, cultural anthropology. Take them with an open mind, because they might just change your world

Don’t live with your best friends. Live with people who have compatible lifestyles.

Prop your door open in the dorm room when you can. Sometimes you will be too tired or you’ll be working, but if not, prop the door open. I made a lot of friends by hanging out with the people who walked by.

If you have to change your major, that is okay. Don’t trap yourself in something just because it’s what you thought you wanted to do when you started. You gave it a try, and the point of giving it a try is to see if it’s what you really want. If you don’t like it, or it turns out not to be something you’re good at, you are not a failure. This happens to so many students. If you have to change your major, it just means you have more thinking to do. Try to admit this to yourself as soon as you can. 

Have fun. These four years will be gone before you know it, and if they go well, you will miss them like crazy when they are gone. But try not to get caught up in worrying about whether other people are having more fun than you. Sometimes fun means camping out in the dead of winter for basketball tickets, sometimes it means grocery shopping and movies with your best friends, sometimes it means a great party, sometimes it means staying up until 4am playing video games and sleeping through your alarm. It’s all okay.

Sometimes you might need to call your mom/dad/best friend back home/grandparent and cry. That’s okay, too.

Whedon is going to kill off everyone and just make the third avengers movie an angry rant about firefly being canceled
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 We’ve only got five billion years till the shops close.

no, i don’t watch that show, but i do follow its developments extensively via tumblr